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A Guy’s Guide For Successful Dating

admin — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 17:15:45 +0000

While there is no way to create a guide that will cover everything a woman wants and expects, there are a few basic rules you should keep in mind. All women are different, but you can be very successful as a man in the dating world with a few tips.
Check Your Ego
You may be hugely successful, drive a nice car, have a padded bank account, but when it comes to dating none of this really matters. If you think too highly of yourself you will come across as condescending, and it will inhibit your odds of finding a good match. Your best assets are going to be your listening skills, your sense of humor, and how well you treat women.
Appearance Matters
Even if you are a laid back and funny, you need to make a good impression. Save the sweat pants for when you have found someone to move in with you. You should have several nice outfits to wear on different occasions and pay attention to your grooming habits when you start dating.
Walk the Fine Line
Women like a man who is a little aggressive, but come across as too pushy and you’ll find yourself alone again. You need to let her call the shots without looking like less of a man. This means don’t move forward sexually until you get the go. It’s okay to grab for the check at the end of a meal, and hold doors and pull out chairs, but don’t allow the aggression to move beyond this until you know her well.

Tips for Ending a Bad Date

admin — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 16:55:23 +0000

There is nothing worse than a date going downhill. We’ve all been in those situations where we just want to get out but don’t know how. If you follow these simple tips you can cut a bad date short without being crude or cruel, on the other hand, if you were only on the date to try and have sex, be upfront and suggest a visit to a swingers party either early on in the date, or even before you go on the date..
Pre-planning
While it sounds cliché, it’s still one of the most effective ways to gracefully dip out of a bad date. Have a friend or family member on standby. If the date starts to take a downward turn, simply excuse yourself to the restroom and call the standby. Arrange for them to call you in 10 minutes or so and just play along with whatever they say. The fake emergency will get you out of the date without looking like a jerk. Anytime you are going on a first date it’s a good idea to plan for an early date. That way you can cut out early with the excuse of a prior engagement. If things do go well, you can always pretend to call and cancel on your prior engagement.
Body Language
If you decide to see the date through to the end, you want to end it in a way that makes clear you aren’t interested. Don’t get any more intimate than a handshake. Don’t offer to call them either. Simply say you’ve had a good time and thank them. If they offer to call you, simply smile and don’t respond. You can always ignore the calls later.

Tips for the End of a Good Date

admin — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 16:00:55 +0000

Ending a date is just as important as how you acted during the date itself. In fact, it’s probably more important what you do at the end since this is the memory you are leaving your date with.

Planning Ahead

The best way to end a date is to have planned before hand. If you have a dinner date, be sure they understand that you need to wrap things up by a certain time. You don’t have to give a reason, simply say when you start planning the date that you need to be home by such and such time. This way there is no awkward moment where you need to wrap the date up but don’t know how. It also won’t ruin a great date by forcing it to linger too much.

Avoiding Awkwardness

The end of a good date can get pretty awkward pretty quickly. To avoid this, always plan on going home alone, and don’t expect to be invited in to your date’s home and embark on an erotic fantasy. At the end of the evening you can walk your date to their car of their front door, and simply tell them you had a good time and offer a hug. Getting more intimate than this on the first date, could get the relationship off to a bad start.

Physical Attraction – Looks Count

admin — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 16:41:32 +0000

While many people will say that looks aren’t important when they start looking for a new relationship, the harsh reality is without a physical attraction a relationship will be slow moving at best. You don’t need to be a supermodel to land a date; you do need to keep up on your appearance.
Grooming
If you are meeting new people at persona events, you need to make sure you keep yourself up. Always have your hair looking its best and if you’re a man, pay attention to grooming when it comes to facial hair. Keep your nails clean. Dress well and smell good. If you look sloppy or smell less than desirable you aren’t going to attract anyone.
Profile Photos
Avoid taking personal photos in a bathroom. This is what high school students do, and it makes you look childish. Instead, have a friend take a few candid shots while you’re out and about. Make sure the photos are up to date, and show you in a good light. Out of date photos may make you look great, but when you meet someone they will only be shocked and disappointed to see you are older and not what your photo proclaimed you to be.
Many people will choose to use a professional to have some great photos taken. If this is in your budget, it’s not a bad idea. A professional photographer will know what angles and light will make you look your best.

What Women Want from a Relationship

admin — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 08:59:57 +0000

Contrary to popular belief, men and women don’t want things that are that different in relationships. Our needs may be different, but in general both sexes are looking for pretty much the same thing. Here’s a quick guide to what most women consider priorities when it comes to a relationship.
Respect
In a world that is primarily dominated by men, women need to feel that their place is not just in the home and kitchen. Most women want a man who can respect her for what she has done, and what she is capable of.
Sexual Fulfillment
Yes, women want and need sex just as much as men. The biggest difference between men and women in this aspect is the type of sex. Women need sex to start far before they reach the bedroom. Foreplay starts in the mind, and can begin as early as dinner conversation. True intimacy is more than the act of sex.
Communication
Women and men communicate differently. For women, discussions are important. For men, most of what they feel is implied. To keep a woman interested you need to engage her in regular conversation, and put up with the occasional ‘feelings’ talk.
Commitment
Another area where men and women tend to differ is the issue of commitment. A woman needs to hear that the relationship is committed, while men just assume it is. A woman is not likely to stick around long if it doesn’t look like the man will be willing to settle down one day. This doesn’t mean you have to run out and buy a ring after the third date, but make sure you are clear on where you stand with the idea of commitment, monogamy, and marriage.

What Men Want From a Relationship

admin — Wed, 17 Nov 2010 11:59:49 +0000

Men and women don’t want terribly different things in a relationship. While many women assume that men want sex, this is actually pretty far down on the list. Here are the important things that men are looking for.
Honesty
A man wants someone they can trust. If you aren’t honest, they can’t build trust with you. This means being open regardless of the topic being discussed.
Self Sufficiency
While men want to feel as though they are taking care of someone, they don’t want a woman that can’t take care of themselves. Men need a woman who is self sufficient and can provide for themselves if times got tough. They don’t want a woman who will do nothing but mooch off of them.
Taking It Slow
Men need a relationship that is free of manipulation. In order to build their confidence in the relationship itself they need someone who will tread lightly on the commitment issue. While women typically want to hear that they are in a committed relationship, a man doesn’t need to verbalize this to know. The best way to form a solid foundation is to take it slow, and not pressure him in to labeling the relationship too early on.
Monogamy
Even though most people assume that men are out for sex first, they actually want someone they can trust with fidelity. If you have a history of cheating, it won’t get you very far in a new relationship. You need to prove that he can trust you with monogamy before he will be willing to move forward. And don’t worry; he will want to do the same for you.